Yes You Caila

In all my past Pep Talk Tuesday posts, the pep talks have been addressed to "you," and realistically they've been kinda addressed to you the reader but mostly addressed to myself. 
Today is different, my pep talk is to Caila Quinn, the girl who was almost The Bachelorette. The was the second runner up on Ben Higgins season, and apparently they started shooting promo film for her own Bachelorette season, but ABC switched and went with a different lead, Jojo. 


GIRL YOU JUST DODGED TWO BULLETS. 
Okay maybe both of those bullets were disguised in a way that you thought they were amazing blessings and opportunities, and maybe you got your heart broken twice within a few weeks, but naw girl, they were NOT gonna be good for you.
1. Ben seems great and you seem great but you were not great together. That's really totally fine. If you and Ben had met under any other circumstances I bet you would have gone on a few more dates and realized there's no spark there. That's fine. You're fine. You're goth great. Unfortunately the show makes that seem like the end of the world. If Ben had picked you in the end, the world would have tried so hard to tear you apart. Who knows if you would have gone through with the marriage. If you had, I'd've wished you the best, but who cares.
2. The Bachelorette would have been terrible for your personality. You like to trust. You like to narrate how open you feel like you're being. You would probably get too attached to your top 16 guys, and you'd take it very personally when you find out that half of them are total jerks. 

You will not have any trouble dating in real life. You will be better at dating in a normal way. You will feel better dating a regular non-famous man who picks you out of a crowd instead of a fame-hungry man who was picked for you and made to like you. Your life is better this way, hands down.


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