The Best Balance

Everybody wants "the best."

I am learning to no longer want/demand the best of everything (and fretting when it can't be found or achieved), but instead want/demand the best balance and compromise.

Example 1:

There are two Mexican restaurants reasonably close to our house. One of them is always insanely crowded, but they have the best guacamole in the world. The other one is a little further away, less crowded, and the servers are super friendly, but their guacamole is average. I cannot keep wishing there was a mythical "best" Mexican restaurant with amazing location, no crowds, low prices, and delicious guac. But I can choose the best compromise based on time of day, how rushed we are, and just how we're feeling overall. 

Example 2:

We're in the thick of searching for apartments. I think we've narrowed it down to four options. There really truly is no "best" apartment complex with the best price, most spacious rooms, AND fanciest amenities. It just doesn't happen that way. Brian and I are learning to lean in the balance- searching for what we value most and what gives us our best compromise. 

Example 3:

There is no best haircut for me. Something stylish takes more upkeep. Something low-maintenance turns into a giant mane on humid days. Short hair is too much of  a commitment. Long hair is too much of a hassle. I just have to deal wth whatever time and effort I'm prepared to put in. These days the best balance for me is plain long layers with no bangs, so I rarely have to get a trim. One day if I have a more professional work environment, I'll have to trade back to a shorter, more polished look. There is not "best," there's just a best balance.

When I Was A Dummy, I thought I could find the best of everything; all I had to do was search hard enough. Now, I realize "perfect" and "best" are never the goal- but balance, compromise, and finding a choice you can be confident in.